Books, Blogs, and Articles

Books

Here! We're Queer! Get Used to Us!
Survival Strategies
for a Hostile World
(ISBN 1-59457-317-4) can be purchased
through Amazon.com

News reports of anti-gay/lesbian/bisexual/transgendered violence, especially the media coverage of the brutal murders of Teena Brandon and Matthew Shepard, leave us feeling hopeless.

We're Here! We're Queer! Get Used to Us! Survival Strategies for a Hostile World provides an antidote to this sense of hopelessness by showing how LGBT people have successfully defended themselves against homophobic comments, threatening situations, and violence.

We're Here! We're Queer! Get Used to Us! Survival Strategies for a Hostile World also includes a chapter describing same-sex intimate abuse and violence and includes examples of how GLBT people get out of damaging relationships.

We're Here

©2004 Regina Sewell

Untangled

Untangling the Knot: Queer Voices on Marriage, Relationships & Identity
(OpenBook) Paperback – February 28, 2015 Amazon.com
by Carter Sickels (Editor)

Untangling the Knot: Marriage, Relationships & Identity, an anthology of essays and creative nonfiction, delves past the mainstream focus on marriage equality―beyond the knot― to examine the broad scope of issues facing members of the LGBTQ community. The collection sheds light on what marriage equality actually means for queer communities. By confronting the concept of tradition through personal discourse, this volume seeks to create conversation amongst the diverse members of the LGBTQ community and their straight allies to prompt a larger, grander, and more realistic vision of what marriage equality really means for those living in the United States. Untangling the Knot: Marriage, Relationships & Identity includes the voices of many individuals who are underrepresented in the modern discourse surrounding LGBTQ rights, and these unique perspectives may change the direction of that conversation for good.

Knowing Pains:
Women on Love, Sex and Work
in Our 40s

Have you ever wondered how other women survived their 40s? You'll get an earful in Knowing Pains, an honest, humorous, thoughtful, and diverse collection of essays by real women who aren't afraid to tell their age and tell it like it is. Sex, marriage, love, divorce, motherhood, singlehood, passion, obsession.

Nothing is off-limits to this startlingly fresh group of new female voices that Molly Rosen has brought together to swap stories and compare notes on the desires, influences, and events that have impacted and shaped their midlives. Collectively, they form a true picture of how real women not only survive their 40s but thrive with dignity, courage and laughter. Available at Amazon

Knowing Pains:
Women on Love, Sex and Work in Our 40s

Have you ever wondered how other women survived their 40s? You'll get an earful in Knowing Pains, an honest, humorous, thoughtful, and diverse collection of essays by real women who aren't afraid to tell their age and tell it like it is. Sex, marriage, love, divorce, motherhood, singlehood, passion, obsession.

Nothing is off-limits to this startlingly fresh group of new female voices that Molly Rosen has brought together to swap stories and compare notes on the desires, influences, and events that have impacted and shaped their midlives. Collectively, they form a true picture of how real women not only survive their 40s but thrive with dignity, courage and laughter. Available at Amazon

Knowing Pains

For more information, check out www.knowingpains.com
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Knowing Pains:
Women on Love, Sex and Work in Our 40s

Have you ever wondered how other women survived their 40s? You'll get an earful in Knowing Pains, an honest, humorous, thoughtful, and diverse collection of essays by real women who aren't afraid to tell their age and tell it like it is. Sex, marriage, love, divorce, motherhood, singlehood, passion, obsession.

Nothing is off-limits to this startlingly fresh group of new female voices that Molly Rosen has brought together to swap stories and compare notes on the desires, influences, and events that have impacted and shaped their midlives. Collectively, they form a true picture of how real women not only survive their 40s but thrive with dignity, courage and laughter. Available at Amazon

Blogs

For quick self-help articles or to see what we're doing at Visions Counseling, check out our blog:
Turn Roadblocks into Building Blocks.

If someone you love has Alzheimer's or dementia, read my blog Peering Into Fog about making sense of my mother's Alzheimer's disease.

Articles

Selected archived articles originally published in Outlook Columbus can be found below. Click on the title to read the articles of interest.

*Relationships*

Love is a Verb
Simple actions you can take to improve your relationship

The Power of Hope
A guide to getting your relationship through the tough times

Lost that Lovin' Feeling?  Try Gratitude
Instructions for getting the glow back into your relationship

*LGBTQIA and Gender Issues*

Drag Liberation
Liberate your mind and your heart will follow

Glamour Girls, Pretty Boys and the Quest for the Perfect Body
A look at our national obsession with body image as it affects
men and women

Parts and Pieces:  Reconstructing Gender 
What trans teach us about gender

*Social Justice Issues*

A Note From Mother
What Mother Earth might say if she could speak

Diffusing the Power of Words
Self Defense from the inside out

*Existential and Spiritual Explorations*

Got Gratitude
Not only does gratitude make us healthier and happier, but it also improves relationships and job performance. 

Too Sexy for that Grudge
Grudges make you sick, fat, and lonely. Forgiveness makes you healthy and happy. Isn't it time to give forgiveness a chance?

*Addiction*

Savor
A guide to mindful eating

When the Elephant Poops
Subtle and not so subtle signs that someone you love has a drug or alcohol problem and basic things you can do to help them and yourself

High Stakes:  The Dark Side of Gambling
A brief look at gambling addiction

*Physical and Sexual Abuse*

Spinning
How to manage panic attacks and flashbacks

Changing Tapes
A toolbox for unhooking ourselves from the emotional triggers that send us into a spin

*Financial Issues*

Follow the Money
A rough guide to managing your budget in tough financial times

*General Self Help*

Magic Shop
A guide to making changes in your life

Getting Unstuck
How to get unstuck

How to be Happy and Gay
From the Science of Happiness: A guide to accentuating the positive

Live Juicy
The key to a juicy life

*Travel*

Dreaming of summer

Zen and the Art of Surfing
A guide to North Carolina's Outerbanks

Something to BRAG about
Notes from my Bike Ride Across Georgia