A Note from Mother….

Hands gently holding a small Earth with green leaves symbolizing nature.

(If Mother Earth could speak, this is what she might say….) I know that you’re worried about me. I’m old – really old – as in around 4.54 billion years old. Your activities have taken a toll on my health. You have probably read that the polar bears are drowning because the ice caps are…

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Parts and Pieces: Reconstructing Gender

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We live in a world dominated by gender roles with their associated rules. For the most part, these rules are so omnipresent that they are invisible. They run our lives and we don’t even notice. Being a tomboy turned radical feminist, I used to think that I was immune to these rules. But in my…

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Drag Liberation

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Drag is the courage to manifest the queen you already are.Brandi Amara SkyyWhen you’re in character and you’re dressing like a guy, it’s almost like you have a mask on so you have that shield and that character to hide your insecurities or your issues…Spikey Van Dykey Edinburg,Texas. Circa 1973. My hair is pulled into…

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Lost that Lovin’ Feeling? Try Gratitude!

Couple balancing on a kayak by a lakeside at sunset.

Let’s face it, relationships are challenging. Sure, they may start out with fireworks. We spend hours talking and texting and slipping out for late night booty calls. But eventually the newness wears off and the honeymoon is over. Rather than relishing the time we spend with our partners, we take them for granted. When we…

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The Power of Hope

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Beyond sexual chemistry, hope is the kindling that gets relationships going and allows us to fall in love. Hope leads us to see our new partners through rose-colored glasses and ignore their imperfections, rough edges, and annoying and sometimes destructive behavior. And part of falling in love involves becoming entranced with who we are or…

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Love is a Verb

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I put my heart in action (Verb!) To run, to go, to get, to give (Verb!)(You’re what’s happening)Schoolhouse Rock – Verb, That’s What’s Happening Love is a verb. Successful marriages take work, commitment and a lot ofcompromise. When it comes to love, what you do is more important that what you say. It’s pretty easy…

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